“We see the world not as it is, but as we are.” –Albert Einstein
What is Coaching?
Human beings are “observers of the world”. We are living systems which, with our emotions and our bodies, in conjunction with language, “shape” the way in which the world appears to each of us. In other words, each of us creates “interpretations of the world” in which we live.
Life Coaching is a mutual partnership between a coach and a willing individual which connects at the deep personal level of beliefs, values and vision, and which enables the realization of extraordinary results through a process of discovery, goal setting and specific action steps.
Life Coaching is also a technology, a methodology and a style of relating that focuses on the development of human potential. Coaching is inter-developmental in that the collaboration develops both the coach and the individual being coached.
The core of coaching is developing quality in the present and possibilities for future goals. By becoming a powerful observer, you are able to create outcomes for powerful and effective results
An ontological coach is a particular kind of coach who embodies the powerful distinctions of the “Ontology of Language”, also spoken of as the “Ontology of the Human Observer”, and who is able to support people in achieving their goals and creating a new way of being.
Even though people often know what they want in life, quite often they do not know how to get there. Similarly, they do not always know how to avoid what they do not want. Sometimes, people do not even know what is missing for them
The role of an ontological coach is not to tell people how to be or behave, rather to assist them to identify and achieve what they desire.
Ontological coaching is not a process based on a script known by the coach. It is about enabling others to better serve themselves, expand their possibilities, increase their capacity to learn, act more effectively and better design their future. There is artistry and deep learning in ontological approach.
Ontological coaching focuses on the right now – how we presently show up in life through our body, emotions and language. Then understanding what is working for you and what is not, applied directly to your life as a unique individual.
Ontological life coaching relies heavily on your familial, historic and cultural past to understand what behaviors create barriers in your life.
Many times, when people do not like the results they are getting, they first change their actions. But focusing on actions without first changing their perspective (“observer”) toward the situation only produces more of the same results.
To truly change the results, an emphasis on the way the “observer” (the client) perceives herself and the world around her must be made. This is done through bringing in the learning domains of physiology (body posture), emotions & moods and language.
You literally become what you think about most.
Your life becomes what you have imagined and believed in most.
Nobel Prize winning physicists have proven beyond doubt that the physical world is one large sea of energy that flashes into and out of being in milliseconds, over and over again. Nothing is solid. They have proven that thoughts are what put together and hold together this ever-changing energy field into the ‘objects’ that we see.
“Imagination is more important than knowledge.” Albert Einstein
|So why do we see a person instead of a flashing cluster of energy?
Think of a movie reel.
A movie is a collection of about 24 frames a second. Each frame is separated by a gap. However, because of the speed at which one frame replaces another, our eyes get cheated into thinking that we see a continuous and moving picture.
Think of television.
A TV tube is simply a tube with heaps of electrons hitting the screen in a certain way, creating the illusion of form and motion.
This is what all objects are anyway. You have 5 physical senses (sight, sound, touch, smell, and taste).
In other words, your set of senses perceives the sea of energy from a certain limited standpoint and makes up an image from that.
It is not complete, nor is it accurate. It is just an interpretation.
All of our interpretations are solely based on the ‘internal map’ of reality that we have, and not the real truth. Our ‘map’ is a result of our personal life’s collective experiences.
We are all prisoners of our own believe systems
Our thoughts are linked to this invisible energy and they determine what the energy forms. Your thoughts literally shift the universe on a particle-by-particle basis to create your physical life.
Look around you.
Everything you see in our physical world started as an idea, an idea that grew as it was shared and expressed, until it grew enough into a physical object through a number of steps. You literally become what you think about most. Your life becomes what you have imagined and believed in most.
The world is literally your mirror, enabling you to experience in the physical plane what you hold as your truth … until you change it.
Quantum physics shows us that the world is not the hard and unchangeable thing it may appear to be. Instead, it is a very fluid place continuously built up using our individual and collective thoughts.
“If you want to find the secrets of the universe , think in terms of energy, frequency and vibration”
Your Emotional Body
Did you know that every time you talk about an unhealed wound or trauma, you re-activate it in your emotional, spiritual and physical bodies? As you speak, or even think, about an old issue, you experience it as if it is happening right now. Since your subconscious mind does not know the difference between current experience and past memory, for all intents and purposes, the trauma or negative experience is happening now.
When you re-activate old painful memories, your thoughts, words and emotions create a negative karmic energy that you unknowingly project out into your future. This karmic energy manifests in more painful experiences, similar to the original issue. In other words, when issues come up without resolution, a karmic loop or pattern develops.
Each time this karmic pattern manifests in real life situations, you re-experience the original wound and the current hurt simultaneously. When this occurs, it is a powerful opportunity to heal the past wound by healing the current one.
Unfortunately, when an issue is re-activated, instead of using it as a healing opportunity, many of us react by pushing the wounds down with numbing substances like food, drugs, internet, Facebook, TV, and a long list of other distractions.
Unhealed issues get stored in the body, until we release them. The body obliges as a storehouse for emotional wounds but it does take its toll, especially if issues are accumulated for long periods of time. Storing wounds in the body eventually weakens the body and invites illness and disease, as well as causing depression, fatigue, stress and weight gain. The good news is that the body is ready to release issues, the moment you are.
When an unhealed issue is re-activated, don’t just push it down – take the time to finally heal it. This means creating intentional space to feel your emotions and allow the issue to Process Through to Healing, or complete the healing process in whatever way works best for you.
Wounds are meant to be healed. We are not meant to spend our lives carrying around past issues and hurts. Unhealed issues weigh us down, keep us asleep and prevent us from consciously creating. It is only our personal issues that stop us from experiencing our greatest potential. Holding onto issues keeps us limited and unable to reach that mountain top.
Because of the shifts going on in the collective consciousness and the higher energy now available on this planet, it has never been easier to release old issues. In fact, issues are now coming to the surface to be resolved. This is why so many of us are experiencing familiar challenges. Wounds want to be healed and issues want to be released, but you have the last say. None of this can happen until you are ready and willing.
You are meant to be free and clear of emotional burdens. You are meant to live a limitless life with an abundance of love and creativity. You are meant to stand on the mountain top with arms stretched wide – willing to receive your grandest dreams. The Universe is listening.
Article by Nanice Ellis (Guest Writer for “Wake up World)
There is a thinking stuff from which all things are made, and which, in its original state, penetrates and fills the interspaces of the universe.
Every time you appreciate something, every time you praise something, every time you feel good about something,
Life is an echo.
Remember, Life is an echo. It always gets back to you.
Ask and I shall receive!